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Send us a textSetting boundaries isn’t about controlling others—it’s about protecting your time, energy, and mental health. But here’s where most people get stuck: they set a boundary but don’t actually enforce it. If you say, “I won’t tolerate yelling,” but stick around when someone raises their voice, your boundary isn’t doing anything.In this episode of Shrink Shots, we break down:✅ What boundaries really are (and why they’re essential for mental health)✅ The biggest mistakes people make when setting boundaries✅ The 3 types of boundaries—physical, emotional, and time/energy✅ How to set boundaries without guilt (and actually enforce them)If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, saying no, or feeling drained by relationships, this episode will give you the tools to set clear, strong boundaries that actually stick.🎧 Hit play now and start protecting your peace—without feeling like an ahole.👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @kaylarreilly 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com

Send us a textEver feel like you’re losing yourself in a relationship? Maybe your mood depends on your partner’s mood, or you avoid conflict to keep the peace. That’s a differentiation problem—and it’s one of the biggest reasons people struggle with boundaries, emotional independence, and self-worth in relationships.In this episode of Shrink Shots, we’re breaking down:✅ What differentiation actually means (and why it’s crucial for healthy relationships)✅ Signs you might have low differentiation (people-pleasing, absorbing emotions, avoiding conflict)✅ How to stop losing yourself in relationships (without pushing people away)✅ Simple strategies to strengthen your sense of selfIf you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, over-functioning in relationships, or feeling like your identity shifts based on who you’re with, this episode is for you.🎧 Hit play now and learn how to build healthier, stronger relationships—without sacrificing YOU in the process.👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @kaylarreilly 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com

Send us a textHave you ever wondered why you react the way you do in relationships? Your attachment style is the blueprint for how you connect with others—shaped by early experiences and influencing everything from romantic relationships to friendships and even work dynamics.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we dive deep into the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and explore how they impact your love life, emotional needs, and communication patterns. You’ll learn:✅ How early caregiver interactions shape attachment styles✅ Real-life examples of how attachment plays out in relationships✅ Why anxious or avoidant tendencies can cause relationship struggles✅ Practical strategies to shift toward a secure attachment style🔎 Discover your attachment style today! Check out the online quizzes linked in the show notes.👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @kaylarreilly 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com

Send us a textYou’ve had that oh sht* moment—where suddenly, your entire past, your relationships, or your behaviors just click. That’s insight, one of the biggest game-changers in therapy. But here’s the catch: insight alone doesn’t fix anything.In this episode of Shrink Shots, we break down:✅ What insight actually is & why it’s crucial for growth✅ Why just knowing your patterns isn’t enough✅ How to turn those “aha” moments into real change✅ Simple strategies to rewire your habits and behaviorsIf you’ve ever wondered why awareness alone doesn’t stop self-sabotage, overthinking, or unhealthy patterns, this episode is for you.🎧 Hit play now and start turning your insight into action!👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @kaylarreilly 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com

Send us a textEver feel dismissed when you open up about something important? Validation is more than just a "nice-to-have"—it's a core emotional need that affects how we connect with others and how we see ourselves. In this episode of Shrink Shots, we’re diving into:✅ Why validation matters for mental health & relationships✅ Where we often seek validation (and why it backfires)✅ How to validate yourself instead of relying on others✅ What to say when someone dismisses your feelingsIf you’ve ever felt unheard, misunderstood, or like your emotions are "too much," this episode is for you. Plus, get actionable strategies to break the cycle of seeking external validation.🎧 Tune in now and learn how to finally feel seen—without needing anyone else’s permission.👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @kaylarreilly 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com